You are finally entering a happy relationship. You and your partner are enjoying each other’s company. You both walk past someone and they give your boyfriend a look that made you wonder, is that person interested in your man? Now, you are angry at him and the other person because someone, other than you, has caught their eye.

When we get into relationships, we become a whole new person. We’re happy and in love. As joyful as this new stage of life is, there are some problems that may come with it. 

In some relationships, some people revolve their world around their significant other. When we become attached to a person, we want to make sure we are the only one who is. We may do things such as ask “who is this?” when someone comments on their pictures or give someone a nasty look when they even take a glance at your partner. 

A wave of jealousy and even a little bit of insecurity kind of hits us in the face, but of course, we will never admit that. 

When we do start to become insecure about our significant other, we may start to 

conjure up big yet unnecessary arguments. 

If there is a lack of communication between you and your partner, these arguments can start to form an unhealthy relationship. There are times when we may overthink the situation, but there are also times when we feel overthinking is needed. 

UACHS junior, Samantha Bautista, talks about a moment when she felt a moment of jealousy in their relationship.  

“They were allowing another girl to be too close or touchy with them and it made me uncomfortable,” said Bautista. 

The glorious life of being in a relationship can sometimes be deceiving. All we want is to be their only love. We want to be the only one going on dates and spending time with that person, but we have to get over our insecurities and fears. If they are meant to be they will be and if not then that is okay too. 

If the majority of your relationship involves you turning other people away and constantly living in fear of who your partner is with then perhaps you should be alone. Staying with someone that constantly makes you rethink their feelings for you is not a healthy cycle–it makes you delusional.