At first, it may feel like love, with the constant attention, always wanting to be around eachother, and feeling valued by someone. However, overtime, that attention can turn into control.
It does not happen right away. It starts with small things, like getting upset over who you talk to or constantly checking your phone. Slowly as time goes on, it becomes damaging.
You hold on to who they once were, hoping things will get better. You make excuses for their actions, thinking they will change, but the ongoing arguing, name calling, and even physical aggression increases, making it harder to stay.
You feel stuck, wanting to leave, but stay because you care. It is hard to admit that the person you care about is slowly breaking you down.
Teenagers at times find themselves in bad relationships without even realizing it. These types of relationships can affect a teens well-being, leading to stress, anxiety, or low self-esteem. However, understanding the signs can help protect you emotionally, mentally, and even physically. Signs include jealousy, controlling behavior or even emotional and physical abuse.
It is important for teens to recognize that they should be in relationships built on respect, trust, and kindness.
Many teens stay in toxic relationships because they hope things will improve or even because they fear being alone. Staying in a relationship like that is very unhealthy and only makes things harder, emotionally and mentally.
In my own experience, it was kinda hard to break free from an unhealthy relationship. At first I made excuses, hoping things would change. Then I realized how much it was draining my happiness, peace of mind, and friendships. I knew that it was time for me to make the difficult choice of walking away, but it was a decision that was made to protect my mental health.
Young people need to understand that being in a toxic relationship is not their fault. They need to know that there is always help available. Talking to a counselor or a trusted friend can make a big difference. Ending an unhealthy relationship may feel difficult but in the end, it is worth it because you should not be with anyone who brings you down and makes you feel like you do not know your worth.
Some of the signs of a toxic relationship include jealousy, controlling behavior, verbal or physical abuse, isolation from friends, manipulation, or guilt-tripping. Recognizing the warning signs should always be a top priority for protecting your mental health.
According to Youth.Gov, “One in 10 teens experience physical abuse, and 76% experience emotional abuse in relationships.”
If you need support, reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit loveisrespect.org.
No matter how much you may want to ignore the signs, you should tell a trusted person. Remember, everyone deserves to be in a relationship that is built on respect and kindness.
